25 Nov

Responsibility. Every day I see people who refuse to take it. It’s big. It’s ugly. It’s scary. It’s abrasive. It’s offense. If smells bad. It’s all of the gross, yucky, unpleasant things that mommy and daddy taught you from birth to avoid, and it’s why these people I see who refuse to take it are often in bad moods and are having bad days. They sigh. They moan. They whine. And it’s all because they refuse to take responsibility.

The truth is that if you are feeling anything other than great right now, it’s because you’re hoping that someone else will deal with that big, nasty, smelly beast known as responsibility. The truth is that nobody is going to do it for you. The truth is that nobody *can* do it for you, even if they wanted to (and very, very few genuinely want to do that for you). Nobody can reach into your mind and pluck the feelings of sadness, frustration or fear from it.

I don’t feel sorry for people who are having a bad day. I have no sympathy for someone who is “down.” I don’t give “prayers” and “well wishes” to people who are struggling with issues that are being created by their own selfish, lazy ego. I don’t do these things because they would be futile attempts at reaching in and plucking out what ails them. Harsh? Sure, if you’re still fully controlled by your own ego. But if you’ve learned to recognize that it’s the ego that causes a person to write-off an entire day as “bad” because of one stupid, insignificant bump in the road during that 24 hour journey, then you too will see the ego for the ugly, ungrateful, exaggerating parasite that it is. It wants perfection. It’s miserable when it doesn’t get it. There’s no such thing as perfection, hence all of the miserable people on the planet.

Responsibility. It means looking in a mirror and staring at what is really preventing you from dealing with the problem. It’s not the asshole who pissed you off and “burned” you. It’s the person in the mirror who won’t let it go. Who thinks too highly of themselves and believes they’re owed more than they actually are. It’s the person in the mirror who thinks they’re more important and special to other people than they really are. It’s a lack of humility and grace expressed not by the person who caused the irritation, but by the fool in the mirror who won’t let it go.

Take responsibility for your own mood, emotions and attitude. Nobody decides how you feel unless you let them. Only a fool tries to control how another feels. And only a fool allows them to.

3 Responses to “Responsibility”

  1. Sue Dreamwalker November 25, 2012 at 10:34 am #

    I have empathy for those who are feeling down, because once upon a time I travelled that road, but you are right when you say take responsibility… For we own our own emotions we choose at the end of the day to feel woe-is-me or happy…. Our state of Mind dictates our frame of Mood..

    The problem for many is they have to blame someone else for how they are feeling… For thats the way they view their world… It takes those of us with patience to shake their awareness into seeing that its their states of mind which is perceiving things to be woe-is-me …. And that its up to them to change their awareness by being responsible for how they think…

    Many view themselves as the Victim, when the only victim is their lack of self awareness… It is often Warriors and Sages like yourself who have to wield the sword of truth and the Truth at times Hurts!

    Blessings Sue

    • Miro November 25, 2012 at 11:03 am #

      Thank you, Sue. Beautifully said. I traveled that road as well, as everyone else has. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think the solution could be as simple as two letters: “No.” It all comes down to recognizing what is going on, and then deciding that you won’t be a part of it anymore, no matter what the cost or sacrifice is. I’m all for shaking awareness into people! πŸ™‚ Gentle poking and prodding never seems to work. Those are comfortable techniques, and the greatest things in life, the truest truths, are uncomfortable.

      Thanks for commenting and always bringing your strength, grace and impeccability to this blog. πŸ™‚

      Much love,

      • Sue Dreamwalker November 25, 2012 at 11:08 am #

        Thank you too Miro … πŸ™‚ Life is full of those moments of feeling uncomfortable… But without them we never grow…

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