Archive | February, 2012

Sorry I Couldn’t Come Out

29 Feb

“Individual commitment to a group effort — that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.” ~Vince Lombardi

Sorry I Couldn’t Come Out

Every now and then I try
To throw a social meet
An opportunity for folks
To encounter and greet

Interesting new  people
And make their circle grow
I feel it is my duty since
I’ve seen most efforts slow

I’ve seen a lot of people who
Say that they are too “busy”
To set aside an hour or two
Because they’re in a tizzy

Over all their duties that
They think take up much more
Time than they have in the day
So I engage the chore

Of throwing parties, meet-ups and
Other social events
But most are not well attended
Because one thing prevents:

“Sorry I could not come out”
Is what I always hear
Apology that I consider
Somewhat insincere

“Sorry I could not come out”
Is said by many who
Don’t respond for days or weeks
When asked “You coming too?”

“Sorry I could not come out”
Gets sent after the fact
Wouldn’t it make more sense to
Reply, respond, react

Before event is history
To take a moment and
Say that you won’t make it ‘cause
You’ve got something else planned?

Let’s be honest, we all know
That most, including us
Sometimes fluff off events ‘cause
They seem like too much fuss

We may not have something else planned
But just don’t “feel like it”
And since we don’t want feelings hurt
We’re too scared to admit

The real reason we won’t attend
The reason we aren’t there
But when apology comes after
It shows we don’t care

It doesn’t take an hour or
A day or week to write
“I will not make it but I hope
You all have fun despite”

So when you are invited by
A person who is trying
To bring people together and
Stop socialness from dying

Recognize where we are headed
Cocooning in our homes
Sitting silently before TVs
Like withered gnomes

Appreciate the effort and
The sentiment and make
An effort to engage and from
Solitude have a break

And if you cannot attend then
At least have decency
To not wait ‘till it’s obvious
To all that you weren’t free

“Sorry I could not come out”
To me is a bit late
When you can’t attend, it’s best
To not hold off and wait

No matter how “busy” you are
There’s always a minute
To say you’ll be there or you won’t
Either way, just commit

                                     ~Miro

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Who Are You Wearing, Warrior?

27 Feb

“Expensive clothes are a waste of money.” ~Meryl Streep

Who Are You Wearing, Warrior?

The red carpet gets rolled out and
The stars come out in force
And first thing interviewers ask
Is for them to endorse

The company that made their clothes
As if it has a bearing
On anything that matters when they
Ask “Who are you wearing?”

The stars are often polite and
They try to play along
Hugo Boss,” “Armani” and “Versace
Same old song

The irony is that they choose
To ask the question “Who?”
As if the sewer’s name implies
More admiration’s due

The Warrior looks on at all
The glitz and pageantry
And only dresses, jackets, pants
And shoes are what they see

The question is not “Who?” but “What?”
Because it doesn’t matter
Who created all these clothes
Which cost so much to flatter

What did you do to earn praise?”
What fuels your burning fire?”
What are you most passionate
About, what did inspire?”

Sixty seconds wasted on
The shallow subject of
Things the rich spend money on
Instead of what they love

Further perpetrating the
Misleading attitude
That “who” you wear decides precisely
How you will be viewed

I tip my hat in respect to
The Warriors who chose
To stand apart and not care how
They’re judged based on their clothes

For everyone who utters things
Like “What an ugly dress!”
Or “What a boring suit” or “That
Outfit failed to impress”

The Warrior has weeded out
The superficial sheep
People who would rather keep it
Shallow than look deep

“Who am I wearing?” they ask
Right back with a sly smile
“Many designers made what you see
Let us compile:

I’m wearing Peace and Fortitude
Resolve, Courage and Strength
Intensity and Patience, as you see
It’s perfect length

A little Focus and Balance
Thrown in there at the base
And with some trim of Selflessness
And Love as well and Grace

That may not be the answer that
The interviewer wants
But names of designers are not
What the Warrior flaunts

There’s only one designer of
The ensemble they wear:
Wisdom made what you see here
Dress label? I don’t care”

                                 ~Miro

Sunshine Award

27 Feb

Who needs an Oscar? Not me, I’d rather have a Sunshine Award. 🙂 Heartfelt gratitude to Debbie Addams and Bipolar Muse for nominated me for this lovely award.

The Sunshine Award, like all other rewards, has some rules:

  • Include the award’s logo in a post or on your blog
  • Answer 10 questions about yourself
  • Nominate 10-12 other fabulous bloggers
  • Link your nominees to the post and comment on their blogs, letting them know they have been nominated
  • Share the love and link the person who nominated you.

TEN QUESTIONS

  1. Favorite color: Orange
  2. Favorite animal: Dog
  3. Favorite number: 5
  4. Favorite non-alcoholic drink: Grape Juice
  5. Prefer Facebook or Twitter? Facebook.
  6. My passion: Passion
  7. Prefer getting or giving presents:  Giving
  8. Favorite pattern: Flannel
  9. Favorite day of the week: “Today”
  10. Favorite flower: Rose

My nominees for the Sunshine Award are these inspiring pages authored by some truly beautiful and talented people:

1. http://doyoumeanwhatiknow.wordpress.com/

2. http://justsimplyinlove.wordpress.com/

3. http://catforsley.me/

4. http://willofheart.wordpress.com/

5. http://aussieemu.wordpress.com/

6. http://poeticparfait.wordpress.com/

7. http://ssbuckmaster.wordpress.com/

8. http://dontchawannadream.wordpress.com/

9. http://zendictive.wordpress.com/

10. http://myzenjourney.com/

11. http://granbee.wordpress.com/

12. http://nandinidhiman.wordpress.com/

Exceptionists

26 Feb

“There are those whose sole claim to profundity is the discovery of exceptions to the rules.” ~Paul Eldridge

Exceptionists

There is a type of person that
I call “exceptionist”
They often miss the point and let
Their fear and doubt persist

Whenever there’s a message that
Inspires and empowers
Exceptionists have one example
That makes them all cower

That one exception which holds back
Which whispers “It won’t work”
When you encounter these doubters
Don’t let your feelings lurk

Be sure to remind them that there
Will always be exceptions
But it’s important not to let
Them control your perceptions

Exceptionists are driven by
A goal that can’t be reached:
“Perfection,” which does not exist
It’s something only preached

They miss the message, can’t infer
Get stuck on one example
To them, it’s not the big picture
That’s key, it’s the small sample

By their thinking, there would be no
More Christians here on Earth
They’d have to quit because the few
Who lived life not with mirth

Millions would be called to leave
Their faith because the few
Who murdered, beat up, molested
And turned the faith askew

We’d all need to stop working out
For fear of injury
“I will not jog because I heard
Some guy blew out his knee”

And I have heard so many of
Their kind defend their smoking:
“I knew a guy who didn’t smoke
And still he wound up croaking”

Small-minded are these people
They can’t seem to infer
They always seem to gravitate
On points that will deter

They do not seem to get much done
‘Cause there’s always excuse
Something that will threaten their
Comfort and cause abuse

The warrior sees exceptions
As nothing more than fear
Warnings from the cowardly
Who can’t get ass in gear

They focus on the many who
Have faced a challenge and
Not allowed exceptions to
Scare them, but took a stand

Rose up, conquered, grew in strength
And said “Bring on the next”
All the while, exceptionist
Sits, watches and objects

                                    ~Miro

The 1-in-100 Warrior Award: You As A Machine

25 Feb

“Out of every one hundred men, ten shouldn’t even be there, eighty are just targets, nine are the real fighters, and we are lucky to have them, for they make the battle. Ah, but the one, one is a Warrior, and he will bring the others back.” ~Heraclitus

The way of the Warrior is not only about pushing yourself mentally, but physically too. There is a direct connection between your soul and body. As C.S. Lewis once said, “You don’t have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body.” And that’s all you truly have in this world. You may think you have a house, a car, a job, pets, even friends and family, but all of these things won’t necessarily be around until the end of your life. Some of them may even be gone tomorrow. Your body is the only constant from birth ’till death, and what you do with it plays a large part in your creativity, your productivity and your attitude.

Those who mistreat their bodies with lack of exercise and unhealthy eating are lying to themselves if they think they can get away with it. You’re lying to yourself if you think that you can push yourself mentally while taking shortcuts physically. Warriors are honest. They know the truth. They don’t lie to others, but more importantly, they don’t lie to themselves. They go into the gym knowing full well the importance of overcoming the challenge before them. How overcoming discomfort and physical difficulty makes you grow stronger not only in the gym, but when you’re dealing with an undisciplined, lazy, selfish and comfort-seeking person who makes the choice of unloading their frustrations on others. The Warrior felt their legs burning during that run or jog, or during that time on the Stairmaster, or during those squats, and persevered through it. The Warrior sees the undisciplined mind lashing out due to discomfort and remembers their own discomfort that was conquered. The Warrior keeps calm. Warriors see people throw fits from being pushed by challenges and remember constantly being pushed by weights. Warriors push back, and they understand that it takes focus, concentration and controlled, deliberate intensity over a sustained period of time to push back. They don’t snap back and bicker, because they’ve learned that doesn’t do you any good in the weight room.

And while so many fly off the handle or get stressed, Warriors choose to be calm, just as they choose the healthy food option when they’d much rather enjoy the unhealthy choice. Everything’s connected. The amount that you push yourself physically with exercise and how much you push against cravings is directly connected to how hard you’ll push yourself to excel at your job, to make the extra effort to start and finish that creative project you were thinking of doing, and how much you’ll expect of yourself when things don’t go as planned.

You As A Machine is a Warrior. We hear so many women talk about all of the weight they gained after having kids, and not being able to lose it. We hear so many talk about how as they grow older, the weight starts to pile on and won’t come off. As a 40 year old mother of two, You As A Machine is a reminder of the potential that we all have within us if we push ourselves. Here’s what a 40 year old mother of two achieved when she refused to lie to herself and chose to follow that innate truth we all have within us:

She’s an inspiration to everyone who ever listened to their own excuses as to why they’re not in the best shape they can be in, and an encouraging reminder to all those that listen and follow their own truth. True, some of us have rips, tears, breaks and other physical issues that will keep us from having washboard abs and bulging muscles, but the point isn’t to rise up to the level of other people’s potential, it’s to rise up to your own level. I know all about that, having suffered a permanent shoulder injury years ago. Despite the constant pain and weakness, I’m still in better physical shape than a vast majority of people I encounter every day that have no injuries or health issues. It’s because I push myself to my own limits and realize my own potential. I could be overweight and use the excuse of “I’m hurt” and nobody would fault me for it. But I’d be lying to myself. Just as You As A Machine could use her age and the fact that she’s had two kids as excuses to be overweight, but she doesn’t lie to herself either. She not only pushes and reaches her limits everyday, but serves others by giving advice and guidance on how they too can fulfill their own potential. She’s 1-in-100, and we are lucky to have her: http://youasamachine.com/

Guidelines for the 1-in-100 Warrior Award: To acknowledge and honor the rarity of the Warrior, it is recommended that the recipient passes this award on to only *one* other blogger that they feel goes above and beyond to serve and inspire others, and who maintains their grace and positivity even in the face of difficult challenges, such as health issues, tragedy, injustice or loss.

Once an author is given the award, they may continue nominating one new blog author once a week, month, year… or whatever seems appropriate. It’s like a knight’s ability to bestow knighthood onto another whenever they choose. But only one at a time. The patience of a Warrior is required.

Guarantees

24 Feb

“If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster.” ~Clint Eastwood


Guarantees

As I surf through the sea of web
And read the writes of others
A common theme that appears in
The writes of sisters, brothers

Is angst because they struggle with
A big uncertainty
They write how they want wisdom and
They wish for clarity

They want some reassurance that
It all will be okay
That they are not just wasting time
For all the things they pray

They want that peace of mind that they
See so few do possess
I’ve got the secret but it may
A few of you depress

I don’t have words of wisdom that will
Fill you with warm light
I cannot guarantee that everything
Will be alright

In fact, I’ll say the opposite
You’re in for a tough ride
Loss and suffering and death
And no safe place to hide

At times there will not be someone
Who’s there to console you
That God you worship will sometimes
Feel absent when you’re blue

Others will deceive and hurt
And put themselves ahead
Of you and everyone else and
Leave all of you for dead

And if you survive long enough
Your body falls apart
Think you have it bad right now?
Wait ‘till you’re an old fart

You’ll carry physical pain on
Your shoulders every day
You may even lose your mind as
All of your hair turns gray

You want a guarantee in life
That clarity will come?
That peace and grace will come to you
And help you not succumb?

That everything will be alright
And your angst will disperse?
The only guarantee I’ll give
Is that it just gets worse

Because that is the nature of
The weakness that plagues you
The lack of courage, strength and faith
That’s given you this view

You want a guarantee, just listen
To the words of Clint:
“Buy a toaster,” Eastwood said
With his cold, steely squint

Because he is a warrior
And fully understands
No one owes you anything
It all lies in your hands

You can’t control what happens but
You can control reaction
It’s your choice if you focus or
If you just choose distraction

Pain and misery and angst
Uncertainty and stress
All they do is distract from
The strength that you possess

So for a moment, clear your mind
And let go those afflictions
And focus on the positives
Your resolve and convictions

And maybe then you will get that
Guarantee you desire
That within you already is
Everything you require

                            ~Miro

Grind

22 Feb

“Life is a journey, not a destination.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Grind

Too many look past
The sweat and the grind
Want the gold prize
But are idle inclined

Now I don’t claim
To be some dynamo
To tell you the truth
I’m feeling quite slow

From the aches and the pains
That are holding me back
But slow as I go
I don’t curb my attack

‘Cause it’s not about how
Fast you finish the race
In fact there’s no finish
It’s all in the chase

It’s running the road
That you know never ends
And pushing yourself
When it always extends

Accepting that there
Is no end in sight
Pushing on boldly
With all of your might

Not looking beside you
To see how the others
Compare with your pace
Or you with another’s

It’s about your potential
Finding your limit
And pushing it further
When you’d much rather quit

It’s about being spent
Completely tapped out
Then roaring with vigor
A primeval shout

“I’ll never give up
It’s not in my code
I’ll keep trudging on
Even though slowed”

Endurance and faith
Conviction and will
Awake in yourself
And in others, instill

And after a while
As others have sat
And you’ve ground your feet
Till they’re ragged and flat

They’ll marvel at all
That you have attained
From running the road
From not being chained

And they’ll want the same
And maybe they too
Will have the conviction
To follow it through

But remind them that it
Does come at a price
Before they lace up
Give this sound advice:

“There’s no end in sight
There won’t be a finish
The harder you grind
The more you diminish

It’s the warrior’s code
To give it your all
And when legs start to buckle
Well, then you can crawl

The goal is to always
Be moving forward
That is the prize
The grind will reward”

                              ~Miro