Why You Don’t Have Any Friends

7 Dec

Why You Don’t Have Any Friends

I’m never too afraid to deal
With sensitive issues
For many this one’s close to home
And brings about the blues

“Why don’t I have any friends?”
A lot of people ask
Rather than just pussyfoot
I’ll take them right to task

The reason that you do not have
A group of folks to call
Is ‘cause they find it difficult
To get past your high wall

True, a lot of folks are just
Too busy to put in
The time and work required to
Make friendship more than thin

I’m not talking about those folks
Who are not your true friends
I’m speaking of the kind of person
Who comes out, attends

Who keeps their schedule open
To come to your event
Who knows what simply coming out
And just being there meant

Of the people who would go
To ends of Earth for you
Many of them just give up
Because they can’t get through

They can’t deal with your pickiness
Or always being grilled
“Why did you do or say that?”
Eventually trust’s killed

You don’t have any friends because
You don’t give benefit
Of the doubt and ‘cause you don’t
Have patience to permit

Anyone from doing things
That cause you to ask “Why?”
Accusing or tearing down is
No act for an ally

But most of all you have no friends
Because no one can reach
All the expectations that you
Minister and preach

Maybe if you’d let it go
And let people be them
Instead of using things they do
That you don’t to condemn

You would have a few more friends
That you could rely on
‘Cause letting people be themselves
Is what trust’s built upon



8 Responses to “Why You Don’t Have Any Friends”

  1. Bongo December 7, 2011 at 11:58 am #

    Great poem. Very insightful.

  2. Nandini December 7, 2011 at 12:49 pm #


  3. Antigone's Clamor December 7, 2011 at 3:02 pm #

    Wonderful poem, Miro! When I think of true friends, I think of Frodo and Sam. Loyalty is undervalued today. Thank you for reminding me of the kind of friend I need to be.

    • Warrior Poet Wisdom December 7, 2011 at 4:00 pm #

      Great example! I just watched The Two Towers yesterday actually. We could all use more friends like Mr. Frodo’s gardener, as well as more like him.
      Peace & grace,

      • Antigone's Clamor December 7, 2011 at 5:02 pm #

        That’s such a great movie…probably my favorite of all three. I like movies and books that show people persevering and walking on with no sign of immediate relief. That’s why “The Silver Chair” is my favorite Narnia book. We should all have that kind of faith.

  4. Sunshine December 8, 2011 at 2:05 am #

    Beautifully written….true friendships so rare to find, but when you are blessed with a few, it’s like heaven here on earth.

  5. granbee December 8, 2011 at 2:07 pm #

    “You don’t have patience to permit”: oh, my goodness, gracious, how many GOOD, POLITE, NI-I-ICE folks in littleSouthern towns fit THIS description. Of course, we all are guilty of this non-permission of others to be themselves, sometimes. Antigone’s Clamor and I are often on the same page with these relationship issues. I am so glad she brought to our attention on this particular post the wonderful example of Samwise Gangee. How truly fortunate we are if we can think of even ONE friend we have who “permits” us like this! I am so glad you are a J.R.R. Tolkien fan with the Lord of the Rings movies. I cannot WAIT for the two Hobbit movies Peter Jackson is making in New Zealand to be completed and released! The Cambridge circle of J.R.R. Tolkien, C.S. Lewis, Mr.Williams, etc. is such a fine example of supportive, encouraging, accepting friendship. I cannot help but believe that circle of friends had to have been much of his inspiration for the Fellowship of the Ring!

  6. willofheart December 9, 2011 at 10:51 am #

    wow… I love this poem, wordings are truly magnificent …. Why You Don’t Have Any Friends? having true friends is like a gem …

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